Next to Thanksgiving, Valentine's Day is one of my favorites. I really can't explain why it is, maybe it's because I'm a romantic at heart, or that I like the colors chosen for decorations. Maybe it's because I like the candy. Whatever the reason, I do like this particular day, even though it's history is weird and twisted and really has a lot to do with nothing. It's so strange, that I won't even bore you with the details. You can google it for yourself to see what I mean.
I remember when I was a child, getting busy the days before the big event of Valentine's Day at school, making the special box that the cards would enter into at my desk AND all the cards to everyone in class. This was the day to score on Valentine cards and maybe some treats and extra candy. It was also a measure on your popularity, unfortunately. In high school, there were the Candy-grams. These humiliating gifts were bought by well meaning friends and secret admirers and delivered throughout the school, all day long. Every time the door opened to a classroom, eager eyes darted to the door to see if they were going to be one of the lucky ones to receive one or more of these coveted gifts. Again, it was a popularity contest, although I think I did get one or two of those during my high school days. I guess on the upside, it was a fund-raiser for one of the clubs.
Beyond school was my high school sweetheart and later on, my marriages. Each one of these poor guys is destined for failure. How come, that is? It's called, High Expectations. Yep. There it is. Television, media and all the romantic things others were doing, definitely messes with your mind. Now the poor fella has to outdo the others. sigh. Lets just say, I was disappointed more than once.
The other day, my family and I were chatting and this conversation comes up. I happen to mention that Valentine's Day is my second favorite day on the calendar for a "holiday". My husband is completely surprised! This was a piece of information he didn't know. mmhmmm
Here's the deal. I've downplayed this day, all these years. I hate being disappointed with these ridiculous expectations. Besides, if my husband feels the pressure to show how much he loves me on one day of the year, then forget it. I want that romance all the year through, not just one day of the year. I had had enough of the ups and downs of my school days, or will he totally outdo my friends doings. Whatever. I don't want to be part of that.
Here's what I do know for a fact. My husband loves me. He works hard for our family everyday. Yes, I love flowers, but not the pre-cut ones from the store, unless I buy them myself because I want to. I love the flowers growing for real in my gardens. I love candy! Certain candy, to be sure and I think he knows that. But more than anything, I know that I love being cherished and loved by one man.
Valentine's Day to me, is a day of remembrance of these things. I love all the corny fun stuff that goes along with it, but it's really a day of remembrance for me. And if anyone really figures out the real reason for this day, let me know. K?
"For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life" John 3:16