Well look at me! I'm all of 29 and weighing 129 lbs soaking wet! Ha! My, how things change. My hair was dark as night, skin light and fair and I had a nice long neck. Now-a-days, my hair is all gray, verging on going into white. It's pretty streaky. Let's say I could never squeeze into that dress ever again. Ever. The place where we got married, The Mill Race Inn in Geneva, Illinois, is no longer. Gone are the gorgeous gardens. I don't know what's there now, since it's been a few years since I've been back to check it out.
Fast forward 22 years
I'm a 51 year old woman who thinks she's still 29. I love to have fun. I don't take myself too seriously and I will be the first to laugh at my mistakes and goofs. Over the years, life has taught me much. I think I've reach the elderly wise woman stage in life. I'm okay with that. I have lots to offer younger women. I tend to catch people off guard with things I say and do, thinking I'm this serious person (I am when I need to be) strict (oh yes, that too) but once in a while they get to see this
Wisdom comes with age, at least we like to think so. Young people should seek out an older person as a mentor to be a guide, someone to talk to about what's going on in their lives, because lemme tell ya, nothing surprises me. I remember as a youth in my teens and 20s thinking old people were so naive. Boy was I ever wrong. Now that I'm on the older side of the spectrum (hey, let's go easy on the old person thing) I realize now, that there is nothing new under the sun. Bad attitudes, pride, addictions of all varieties, dating, divorce, kids, etc. has been around forever. It may change a bit, but it's still the same.
We need each other. Young people need the guidance of those who have gone before. Older people like to feel needed and want to share our experiences. If there is someone you think you would click with, approach them and have a chat about getting together on a regular basis. You will be amazed at the richness of that friendship. Hanging with those of the same age, for the most part, doesn't necessarily force you to grow. The challenge comes when different generations comes together in love and friendship. The younger will challenge the older with what is in their lives. What i mean by challenge is that we will want to fix everything for you. But we won't. It's only good for you to go through what you are going through. That's how you grow. But it will frustrate us and probably break our hearts, but it's a good thing. Trust me. The older will challenge the younger in this very thing. We will push you to grow up and take responsibility for your actions and feelings. Or we may remain silent and just listen.
Where ever you are in life, find someone of a different age to spend time with and mine the riches that are there for the taking.